45 things that are true

In a world of unknowns, let me be your guide.

I am not very old. I am not very wise. But there are a few things I know to be true. I think they can serve as shortcuts and solves in many situations.

Life is mostly unknowns so I am very grateful for these knowns in my life and thought it would be kind of me to share them with you so you can also take comfort in and use them.

I also ended this with one from my dad that didn’t feel true when he first said it to me but I find it to be truer and truer as I get older. It is both a little terrifying and a bit liberating.

Anyways. You’re welcome!

Friends & Lovers

• When you are arguing with someone you love, the goal isn’t to win, it’s to end up with everyone happy or at least satisfied.

• The best conversations are not about other people.

• Talking to strangers will enrich your life.

• Other people can see the solution to your problems clearer than you can (and vice versa).

• Quality is better than quantity. This is true when it comes to friends or objects.

• Your life will somewhat mirror the lives of the people you surround yourself with.

• Following someone’s life who you don’t know is unhealthy. Whether it’s a celebrity or someone you went to high school with.

• If you tell someone to watch a YouTube video. They won’t watch it. Just enjoy it for yourself.

Social Awareness & Human Nature

• If someone is a picky eater. They are picky about everything.

• Don’t repeat a joke because you think they didn’t hear it the first time. They heard it. It wasn’t funny.

• If a lot of bad things happen to someone and it’s never their fault. Bad bosses, crazy exes, psycho landlords etc. A lot of it was probably their fault.

• If someone is “playing devils advocate” they are actually just sharing their own opinion.

• If you meet someone and they want to be best friends immediately. Something is amiss. What happened to all their other friends?

• Your true feelings about things/people are usually apparent in your body language.

• You aren’t going to debate someone and change their politics.

• The more someone is posting the less fun they are having.

• If you’re really good looking then you are probably less funny than people act. But that’s ok.

• The world isn’t made up of good guys and bad guys. Everyone is just trying to do what they think is best.

Beauty & Health

• Your diet is more important than your workout in achieving the body you want.

• It’s better to be buzzed than hammered.

• Don’t go budget on anything that can drastically affect your health/body. (Botox/surgery/drugs)

• You probably look better than you think you do.

• You are the only one that can tell that your hair is all weird today.

Work, Money & Status

• Multitasking isn’t real. You can just switch back and forth between things.

• If someone on Twitter is sharing a way to make money. You won’t make money that way. If everyone on Twitter is sharing a way to make money, you definitely can’t make money that way.

• Don’t get drunk at work events.

• It’s not interesting to anyone how busy you are.

• Never say yes to the first offer.

• You don’t have fans unless they are willing to pay for what you make.

• Generosity is the only flex that matters.

Taste, Design & Consumption

• Don’t buy clothes because they look good on a model. You are not a model. Buy clothes because you saw someone on the street look good in them. You are someone on the street.

• The less expensive version is less expensive for a reason. It’s usually worse in a way that matters.

• Almost nothing is worth waiting in line to buy.

• Lighting is more important than you think.

• Ceiling height is more important than you think.

• The flight is the cheapest part of your vacation. So don’t pick a vacation based on price of flights.

Mind & Inner Life

• If you are feeling bad about your life, go for a long walk without your phone.

• You need lows in order to feel highs.

• You have to sit in silence and stare into space for awhile if you want to have original thoughts.

• The answer to your discontent can not be purchased.

• Things are more enjoyable if they are hard.

• The physical feels better than the digital. At a minimum try writing something down with a pencil and paper.

• Enjoy the life you have right now because it might not get any better.

• The world is very beautiful early in the morning.

From my dad

It may not always feel like it but you have more money than you have time.

I hope some of these hit on something for you and help you navigate your life as they have helped me navigate mine.

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